Are You Getting in Your Own Way?
It might be time to up-level your leadership development
There’s a common expression that is a great are-you-getting-in-your-own-way tool in the personal & professional mastery industry. When we get caught up in the reasons and excuses about why we aren’t getting what we want in life and we start playing the blame-game (come on, you know what I’m talking about) then our colleague or coach will remind us that whenever we point our finger at someone or something, there are always 3 other fingers pointing back at us!
It’s a great time to laugh at ourselves. Because really, when we’re struggling and fighting with all these external things in our lives, we can step into the relief of realizing that it’s something within ourselves that needs to be addressed, and great news – that’s totally within our control! And that means it’s time for some inner leadership development.
Here are 3 ways to know if you are getting in your own way.
- You have a problem that keeps recurring
It’s sometimes difficult to see the forest for the trees, when you are in the thick of it. But when you take a moment to pause and reflect on a challenge or issue, you will often see how it’s been repeating in your life. It may be repeating within a certain area of your life, for example you realize that your staff is just not understanding what you expect from them, and your customers are misunderstanding the delivery process and your vendors are confused about the timelines… the common denominator is your communication. At other times, it may be a recurring theme in different areas of your life, such as you tolerating your office manager being habitually late, and your friend reneging on their promise to help you paint the rec room, and your daughter always managing to squeeze that extra $20 out of you… the common theme is your lack of boundaries.
A recurring problem is always pointing to a pattern and it it’s a pattern in your life, then it’s all about you. So resolve the pattern rather than a specific issue and you’ll clear out all the problems connected to that pattern.
- You’re using all your education and training and you’re still not getting the results you want
Knowledge and intellect are not the only factors in success. Whether you trained in B-school or the school of hard knocks, you likely have unconscious programming that is placing a ceiling on your success, and it’s completely out of your awareness. Perhaps you are a sceptical kind of person, always considering the downside and risk, and planning contingencies. On the surface that sounds like a good business practice, however the negative possibilities need to be considered and handled swiftly, and preferably not by you as the business owner, so that you can get on with focusing positively on your future targets.
Your thoughts are best focused on your vision, your goals and the positive results you are in the process of creating. There is scientific evidence to show that those who remain positively focused on their desired outcomes are more likely to succeed. Leave the risk management to your right-hand guy or gal and be the visionary that you need to be in your business.
When you’re not getting the results you want, your first place to look is in the mirror. Here’s an amazing arrangement of Michael Jackson’s Man in the Mirror by PATAX and special guests. Stay with it to the end for the wonderful latin-inspired jam. The lyrics are powerful too.
There are an unlimited number of unconscious programs like this that can overthrow the most brilliant leader. And it usually takes an intimate conversation with a trained professional to identify and change them into success programs so you can get on with growing your business.
In Part 2 of this blog series, we reveal the third way that we get in our own way and some shocking insight into the top fears of the most senior leaders.
Until then, be free… and wild.