My life is awesome… why am I not happy?
If you’re reading this line, then something struck a chord with that headline. Why aren’t you happy? There’s something amiss, and only the deepest part of you knows what it is.
You’re living an amazing life. Career, family, home, social, travel… This is the stuff dreams are made of. It doesn’t get any better than this, they say. You’re living large and working hard. There’s lots of love, laughter and people in your life. You’re driving a nice car and proud of the neighbourhood you live in. You’re a success at work and continue to grow your net worth.
So what’s the problem?
You’re feeling disconnected and antsy. There’s a part of you that is dying inside because it’s not being heard. You’re longing for more meaning in what you do, for deeper connections with others, for a greater purpose in your actions. It’s not enough anymore to fit in, catch up, or win against others. That yardstick isn’t important anymore.
It’s time to listen to you soul… your wildfire within.
Whose definition of an awesome life have you been living? You were probably doing what you were expected to do. And now you’re here, but this dream didn’t originate from you. You need to question the cultural norms and beliefs you’ve adopted and create your own definition of ‘awesome’.
Usually what’s missing is more meaning, in one of these ways:
- Feeling you belong
- Knowing you’re doing your part and truly making things better
- Feeling a sense of purpose, or deeper meaning to your existence
Finding purpose and meaning is a life-long quest. So start now.
Life is a much more exciting adventure when we’re seeking answers to these deeper mysteries.
And along the way on your quest, it’s important to know that you can be happy at any time, in any circumstances, with the right skills. I call this the happy-anyway strategy and it relies on a practice of conscious focus on your thoughts, as well as mind-body state management techniques.
It is incredibly empowering when you realize that you can assign ANY meaning to ANY situation, simply by choice. When you master your thoughts, you master your emotions.
And this is the paradox of life: Accepting what is, while simultaneously wanting something more. You might as well be happy while you’re working it!