Do I Have a Life That’s Good?

Do I Have a Life That’s Good?

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Fall is a wonderful time to reflect on things. Back-to-School feels like a new year, and the Equinox asks us to honour the balance of light and dark in the world. So while the plants are pulling their energy down into their roots for a regenerative winter, I like to express gratitude for everything that contributes to a life that’s good.

Sometimes we can get caught up in seeking goals and material possessions that we think we want, but we want them for the wrong reasons.  We think they’ll make us happy, but often these acquisitions offer short term pleasure and we’re quickly looking for the next fix, whereas what we really need is fulfillment and satisfaction at a deeper level.

This video by one of my favourite artists, Sarah Blackwood of Walk of the Earth, is a gentle reminder that it’s the simple things – two arms around me, a roof over my head, four wheels to get there, a family who always calls me home – that really make a life that’s good.

Questions to consider… Do I Have A Life That’s Good?

  • Do I feel a sense of belonging and love in my home, in my community, and at work?
  • Am I making a difference in the work that I do and the people that I impact?
  • Do I have my priorities in order and in line with my values? (family, friends, passion, fun, health, etc)
  • Am I growing and stretching into a better version of me each and every day?
  • Am I meeting my needs and living within my means? (meeting basic needs without debt, and with some leftover for fun and enjoyment)

If you’re satisfied with your answers to these questions, then I invite you to celebrate and pat yourself on the back for creating a life that’s good.

If not, then decide on one thing you can do immediately to change it, no matter how small that action might be.

As always, I welcome your feedback. Please leave a link back to your own blog too if you have one, via the commentluv feature right here on the site.

Until next time, be resilient.


Are you a Realist?

Are you a Realist?

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I used to be an optimist, actually more like a Pollyanna. Everything was always great – I only saw the positive in situations and ignored the uncomfortable, negative stuff. Now I’m a realist. I accept what is, and recognize what’s out of my control, and then choose to respond in areas where I do have control. You see, realism is accepting what is. The opportunity that’s often missed is then choosing something new in the next moment, in response to what is. It doesn’t mean giving up, or rolling over and playing dead.

Activist Dave Pollard writes in his “how to save the world” blog:

No one is in control. The enemy, if there is one, is not a cabal of elites, but a set of co-dependent collapsing systems that every one of us has a vested interest in trying (insanely) to perpetuate. Systems we have all helped co-create and are almost all dependent on…The question we must each ask ourselves, I think, is this: If we acknowledge that our systems and hence our civilization cannot be reformed or ‘saved’, what can we do now that will make a real difference, for the future, in our communities and for those we love?…The insanely rational answer to this question, I think, is (a) probably nothing, and (b) it’s too early to know.

I disagree with Dave

What we can do is live like we’re dying.

Because we are all dying; we just don’t know when. So why not live like it’s your last months on earth?

Live like your life matters

Activism doesn’t have to mean huge initiatives that shift gigantic gorilla systems a mere millimeter. Activism can be living your life the way you want the world to be and modelling that for others to follow.

I’ve adapted this list from Bronnie Ware’s book “The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying, to give you…

The Rules to Live By (So You Don’t Take Regrets to the Grave)

1. Live true to yourself, not the life others expect of you.
2. Stop working so hard.
3. Find the courage to express your feelings
4. Stay in touch with your friends
5. Let yourself be happier

I challenge you to find ONE good reason to not do the above 5 things. It doesn’t matter if the human race is facing near-term extinction or if you’re going to live another 50 years, there is no reason to go to the grave with regrets about not having done these things.

So… live like you’re dying.

Live life like it matters

If you found out you had cancer and had just months to live, what would you change?

If you were living in a war-torn country and never knew when it would be your last day, what would you say or do differently?

If you were a member of species that was addicted to fossil fuels and were irreversibly destroying the only planet you had to call home, how would you change your life??

Let’s get this party started shall we?!

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As always, I welcome your feedback! Please leave a link back to your own blog too if you have one, via the commentluv feature right here on the site.

Until next time,



The Myth of Self-Sufficiency

The Myth of Self-Sufficiency

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There’s a global movement afoot that is focused on self-reliance and self-sufficiency, and while I am a huge advocate and trainer in this lifestyle choice, I have noticed that most people have misinterpreted the true meaning of it, and risk falling into the trap and myth of self-sufficiency.

At first glance, the notion of self-sufficient living is a noble dream; to live resourcefully and empowered, getting all your needs met from within your homestead or hobby farm, and to be disconnected from the fragile and crumbling systems that our modern industrial civilization has come to depend on.

There’s an idealistic image of a cabin in the woods, away from the bustle of civilization and the rat race of career advancement, with peace and solitude blanketing the home and property.  Often there’s a pond nearby in this dream, with some Muskoka chairs to sit and reflect on the water that’s as smooth as glass.

Well I’m here to tell you that dream is a crock. It’s near impossible unless you have been training and honing the necessary skills for most of your life.  And even if you have the skill set to make a go of it by yourself or with your family, the isolation will drive you batty.  …this coming from a classic introvert who relishes my solitude!

Here’s why self-sufficiency is a myth…

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When the Next Blackout Hits Will you be Ready?

When the Next Blackout Hits Will you be Ready?

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When the Next Blackout hits Will You be Ready? Here in North America we’ve been bombarded with winter storms and extreme temperatures this winter. It seems that almost every week there is a city or state in the US declaring a state of emergency due to heavy snow, winds, and electricity outages.  We had our turn over the holidays here in Canada with hundreds of thousands of people across Ontario, Quebec and the Maritimes without power for days, many of them for over a week. There were thousands of cold, hungry and miserable families who eventually relocated to a friend’s home, a hotel, or a public warming station.

This will happen again.

Are you going to be ready next time?

Weather patterns are becoming more extreme with climate change, and our old electricity grid is fragile and vulnerable to wind, ice, lightning and snow storms.

Blackouts are the new normal.

So what will you do to ensure your family is safe, warm and well fed during the next natural disaster?  Short of planning an evacuation location, building resilience and self-sufficiency is the only way to ensure peace of mind knowing you can weather any chaos, in the comfort of your own home.

For some, a self-sufficiency plan involves knowing their family will be able to thrive for 2 weeks without power and basic services.  For others, their dream of self-sufficiency is to be living off the grid, able to meet all their family’s basic needs for a year or more!

It takes fore-thought and planning and yes, change; doing research, uncovering the options, and making sound decisions.  Your self-sufficiency plan is not something to be taken lightly.  It could mean the difference between your family’s comfort and safety, and their panic and heartbreak.

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I welcome your feedback!  Please leave a link back to your own blog too via the commentluv feature here on the site.

Until next time,


The 3 Beliefs to Master Change

The 3 Beliefs to Master Change

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Have you ever felt like you’re between a rock and a hard place?  Like you don’t have any options and you’re stuck?  We can feel frustrated and powerless in the place.  And my suggestion to you is that there are ALWAYS options when you have the 3 beliefs to master change.

1.  I can create my experience.  Every moment of every day we perceive the world around us as a reflection of what’s going on in our psyche. In other words, who we are at the core impacts how we experience the world.  So if you want to change your experience, change your Self.  Do the work – whether it’s personal growth, spiritual, or professional development – do the work to transform yourself, in order to change your experience of life.  I worked with a woman who had a challenging relationship with her father in her family-based business.  While in my office that day, she transformed her perspective and understanding of that relationship, and that was the day her relationship with her dad changed for good.  Do the inner work, to create a better life experience.

2.  I can choose how I respond. With every experience, we have a choice how we respond, but first we must believe we have that choice. A very wise man once said to me “No one can make you feel anything!!” This can be a difficult pill for some to swallow because it’s human nature to blame those around us for how we’re feeling.  You get to choose your feelings by choosing your thoughts, beliefs, and physiology… unless you want to continue to give away your power and not take responsibility for your life.  Choose your response (consciously) or react (unconsciously). The choice is yours.

3.  I can handle whatever comes my way. …and I will be ok. This belief is at the heart of empowerment and resilience. Every time I learn a skill, I’m empowered. Every time I adapt to a new circumstance, I’m resilient. Every time I lean on my network for support, or tap a new resource, or resolve an old pain, I’m strengthening my foundation and increasing my flexibility.  The more you stretch and grow and flex, the better able to handle unexpected events you become.  Think of it like building a muscle. You build muscle by working it regularly in a cyclic pattern of stretch-and-heal. Stretch into the new every day, and you’ll be better able to handle whatever comes your way!

I’d love your feedback! And don’t forget to leave a link back to your own blog too if you have one via the commentluv feature here on the site.

Until next time,



Change Scares Me. I Hate Change.

Change Scares Me. I Hate Change.

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People have been telling me that change is scary; that they’d do anything to avoid it, they hate change so much.

“Apple made me finally update my phone. I hate change.”

“I got a promotion. Change scares me.”

“Looking at old photos depressed me. I hate change.”

“Finally dyeing my hair. It’s gonna be red. Change scares me.”

“New people on the team. I hate change.”

Now I know there may be a few of you out there who actually like change and get excited about it, but you need to know that you are quite rare. Most people don’t like change.

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The 3 Secrets to Positive Thinking

The 3 Secrets to Positive Thinking

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I thought it might be helpful to share 3 secrets to positive thinking, because everyone wants to be happy.  Everyone likes to be around positive people.  Everyone likes a happy ending.

So why is there so much focus on doom and gloom in the world?  The news is all about crime, disasters and war.  Bosses and teachers talk about what’s wrong with the work but rarely what is good.  People are filled with fear and dread, and are living their lives wondering when the other shoe is going to drop, or “what next?!”.

It takes focus and determination to avoid being sucked in to the negativity around you.  And sometimes you forget that…

You are always at choice about how you think and feel.

And you can choose to think positively any time.

  1. AIM. Know what you want.  It feels good to get clear on what you want.  Often we know what we don’t want, but we don’t take the next steps to say, “if not that, then what?”.  We experience contrast every day that can be used to get clearer and clearer on our dreams and goals.  Whenever you notice something you don’t want, turn it into a new detail about what you do want.  Aim.
  2. ENERGIZE. Choose your thoughts using your emotions.  Use your emotional guidance system to tell you when to change your thinking.  If it feels bad, let the thought go.  If it feels good, focus on it. Daydream about what you want, as often as you can, so that your positive emotions will drive your behavior toward what you want.
  3. BELIEVE. Expect it.  Set the intention for it.  Believe it will be.  Expect it to happen any moment.  The anticipation is not only fun, but it feels good too.  Some people don’t want to get their hopes up in case they end up disappointed, but then they spend the entire time being negative about it.  Wouldn’t it be better to get excited and believe and anticipate it, until it arrives?

So, go ahead, turn that negative thought into a positive one and enjoy yourself.

Life’s more fun that way!

Let me know what you think! I would love your feedback. And don’t forget to leave a link back to your own blog too if you have one via the commentluv feature here on the site.

Until then, be resilient.


Our Most Powerful Hidden Asset – The Unconscious Mind

Our Most Powerful Hidden Asset – The Unconscious Mind

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Have you heard that you have an unconscious mind? I teach my clients how to utilize the most powerful hidden asset that we have… the unconscious mind.  It is responsible for our actions and behaviour, and takes care of our body’s autonomic functions while we focus on other things. In fact, this best-kept-secret-to-getting-the-results-you-want is the single biggest factor in driving the results you get in your life.  So when clients come to me stuck in their stuff, missing the mark, and repeating old patterns, I tell them to “Use your mind… not that mind, the other mind!”

The unconscious mind makes up 90% of your mind’s capacity!  And it drives your behaviour!

Your Conscious Mind is the goal-setter and

your Unconscious Mind is the goal-getter

Wouldn’t it be useful to know how to leverage this part of your mind so you can get the results you really want?

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5 Ways to Know that You Don’t Need a Coach

5 Ways to Know that You Don’t Need a Coach

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Do you ever wonder if you need a coach? I thought it might be simpler to share 5 ways to know that you don’t need a coach rather than all the reasons why you might need one.  You see…

I often get asked “What is it that you do exactly?”

And my typical response;

“I work with mission-focused conscious leaders to strengthen their personal foundation through mental and emotional resilience, so they can make a bigger impact in the world and navigate uncertainty with joy, purpose and grace.”

… is sometimes met with the question, “How do I know if I need that?”

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Why Stay in Your Comfort Zone Where You’re Being Less?

Why Stay in Your Comfort Zone Where You’re Being Less?

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We are creatures of comfort you know. It’s human nature to find the easiest way and to create contentment and coziness, so that we can relax into what we’re familiar with.  And yet, when we stay in this place all the time, we’re missing out on so many opportunities.  And you may be surprised to hear that it takes more effort to stay here because we are resisting the natural flow of life that wants us to expand. It’s called the comfort zone. We all have it. Most of us are willing to do just about anything to stay in it.  Why is that?


We stay in our comfort zone because we’ve learned that the feeling of fear is uncomfortable and must be avoided.

That just isn’t so.  No one has ever perished from fear itself.

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