Why Do You Want Money?

Why Do You Want Money?

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Why do you want money?!?  Sounds like a silly question, right? Like, duh! I want money because…

How did that sentence end for you? What was your first thought?  To be happy?  To relax? To buy X? To do Y?

The fascinating thing about money is that everyone wants it, but most people don’t know truly why, or are unclear as to what it will actually get them.

Money makes the world go round

Money happens to be the vehicle of exchange in our society, and is required in order to pay for shelter, goods and services. And so, while many of us might wish that we didn’t have to deal with money, that fact is, is that it’s a necessity.

In my experience working with clients on success and fulfillment, many people are chasing more and more money believing it will make them happy, but this is a trap. Research has shown that once a person has their basic needs met, there is no correlation between more money and more happiness.

You can, in fact, train your brain to be joyful and happy regardless of your money circumstances, but that’s a blog for another time.

Joy and happiness can come indirectly from what money can help you do, be or have, but if you are not clear on what those specifics are, then happiness will elude you.  In fact, if you are chasing money for money’s sake, you will never have enough. The acquisition of the money will feel empty, without some meaningful outcome that will bring you happiness.

Now, there are always money stories that we’re carrying that are not serving us.  These need to be released and healed.

And there are always fears and doubts around money, no matter if it’s about having too much or too little.  These need to be released and healed.

Regardless of whether you are wealthy or poor, whether you have an abundance mentality or a scarcity mentality, whether your money situation is up and down like a yo-yo… unraveling your relationship with money in order to create a healthier one is life-long work; the layers run that deep.

The first task is to get clear on the impact that money will have on you. And to understand what you want to do with it to improve your life and create happiness.

What’s important to you about money?

The key question to uncover the meaning of money for you is:  What’s important to you about money?  When you uncover the deeper nuances of this question, you will know precisely what you want to create in your life with money in order to reach optimal levels of happiness and joy.

So, go ahead… Find your money-happy!

If you’d like to explore this further with us, our Money and Meaning Mastermind group starts in Aurora, Ontario on February 8th, 2016. Contact us to see if it’s a fit for you now.

And leave a comment to let me know what you find out about yourself.  What did this bring up for you?

Until then, be free… and wild,

Sue

Who Are You When You Retire?

Who Are You When You Retire?

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Well it was bound to happen. The boomers are booming. Statistics Canada reports that a full one third of working Canadians will retire in the next 5 years. More and more of the business owners I meet are wanting to plan how they are going to exit their business as their retirement approaches, and they are wise to be planning ahead!

The main question for a business owner is, “Do I want to sell it, close it, or pass it on to a family member?” And the decisions and action plans are different depending on this overall objective.

Yet the bigger issue that would-be retirees face is what they are going to do, or be, once they retire. Because our identity is so connected to our work or business, it can be difficult to feel confident in our own skin when we are no longer in the work world.

Who am I when I’m not working?

Planning for retirement has traditionally involved financial and lifestyle changes, however there are other self-awareness and psychological issues to address as well.

Here are 4 important issues that need attention as you approach retirement…

Connections, Groups and Affiliations

It’s important to have communities and interests that you love outside the home BEFORE you retire, so that the sudden abundance of time can be filled in part, with things and people you are passionate about.  If you’ve been working so hard you’ve forgotten what you’re passionate about, then you have more self-exploration to do in preparation for retirement.

Productivity and Impact

Knowing how you want to make a ripple in the world after your work life ends is also important.  We can fill our retirement days with fun and leisure but at some point, we’re going to feel the itch to be productive.  This might be in the creative arts, or it could be through volunteering, or perhaps it’s the legacy you leave by being a caregiving influence in your grandchildren’s lives.

Align your Intimate Relationship

Long before you reach retirement you will need to create a shared vision with your spouse or partner. Inevitably your individual dreams are going to differ, and, there is always a way, if you’re willing to find it, to have those dreams to harmonize into a joint future that you can build together.

Freedom to Be Whoever you Want to Be

When the expectations of the work world are behind you, and you’re facing the final phase of life we call elderhood, what is it that you need to give yourself permission to do, be or have, that you never allowed yourself before?!  Will you be that eccentric renaissance man, or that cheeky, tell-it-like-it-is hip grandma, or will you simply wear something previously considered ‘outrageous’ and walk around town not caring two hoots what anyone else thinks?  Why would you do this?!  For the sheer joy and freedom of expressing your true nature!  And because we live most of our lives conforming to other people’s rules about right and wrong, and the final third of our lives is the last chance to shed all that and finally be who we really are!

So, dear Wild Ones, I ask you this:

What is it that you need to let go of in order to be free to enjoy your retirement?

Post a comment here and let me know your answer. Or contact me for a conversation about how I can help you create more Meaning and Fulfillment.

Until next time, be free and wild,

Sue

Do I Have a Life That’s Good?

Do I Have a Life That’s Good?

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Fall is a wonderful time to reflect on things. Back-to-School feels like a new year, and the Equinox asks us to honour the balance of light and dark in the world. So while the plants are pulling their energy down into their roots for a regenerative winter, I like to express gratitude for everything that contributes to a life that’s good.

Sometimes we can get caught up in seeking goals and material possessions that we think we want, but we want them for the wrong reasons.  We think they’ll make us happy, but often these acquisitions offer short term pleasure and we’re quickly looking for the next fix, whereas what we really need is fulfillment and satisfaction at a deeper level.

This video by one of my favourite artists, Sarah Blackwood of Walk of the Earth, is a gentle reminder that it’s the simple things – two arms around me, a roof over my head, four wheels to get there, a family who always calls me home – that really make a life that’s good.

Questions to consider… Do I Have A Life That’s Good?

  • Do I feel a sense of belonging and love in my home, in my community, and at work?
  • Am I making a difference in the work that I do and the people that I impact?
  • Do I have my priorities in order and in line with my values? (family, friends, passion, fun, health, etc)
  • Am I growing and stretching into a better version of me each and every day?
  • Am I meeting my needs and living within my means? (meeting basic needs without debt, and with some leftover for fun and enjoyment)

If you’re satisfied with your answers to these questions, then I invite you to celebrate and pat yourself on the back for creating a life that’s good.

If not, then decide on one thing you can do immediately to change it, no matter how small that action might be.

As always, I welcome your feedback. Please leave a link back to your own blog too if you have one, via the commentluv feature right here on the site.

Until next time, be resilient.

Sue

The Simplest Way to Create Your Family Emergency Preparedness Plan

The Simplest Way to Create Your Family Emergency Preparedness Plan

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Contact: Sue Bowe McKee

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The Simplest Way to Create Your Family Emergency Preparedness Plan

Toronto, Ontario – In response to the natural disaster risks of unpredictable winter weather, self-sufficient living expert Sue Bowe McKee is making it her personal mission to make Emergency Planning available to every household in Canada, so that when emergencies happen, families are prepared, comfortable and safe.  Sue is helping parents get their emergency plan set with a half-day virtual workshop on January 3, 2015, for only $97. The workshop can be attended by phone or internet from anywhere in the world. “There’s just no reason not to be prepared this winter!” says Sue.

Sue is a survival and self-sufficiency expert who has been building personal and community resilience for years. With expertise in mental and emotional resilience, her work in the Transition Town movement, and as a co-creator of the Earth Wisdom Living program, Sue brings a unique and diverse skill set to practicing self-reliance and building an emergency plan.

“It’s heart-breaking to see the turmoil and suffering when natural disasters like the 2013 Ice Storm and Hurricane Sandy happen, when it can so easily be prevented with just a little bit of planning and preparation! Emergency preparedness is the insurance plan no one is selling you… you have to empower yourself to put it in place.”

This Emergency Empowerment Bootcamp is a half-day virtual workshop on January 3, 2015, where participants will learn the best practices from modern and ancient ways, in a robust workbook, with loads of done-for-you checklists and planning templates.  The best part is that during the frequent breaks in the workshop, participants will go and do what needs to be done to create their plan. It’s an action-packed, hands-on event, leaving participants with a working emergency plan for home, vehicle and evacuation.

For more information or to register for the Emergency Empowerment Bootcamp, go to www.suemckee.com/emergency-empowerment/.

Sue is a Certified Trainer and Master Coach with a Bachelor of Science and an MBA.  She works with career-focused moms to build life balance and personal power through nature connection, with the ultimate goal of creating personal freedom and a self-sufficient lifestyle.

 

For additional information contact: Sue Bowe McKee, www.suemckee.com, support@suemckee.com, 416.238.7966

A half-day online workshop from Wildfire Wisdom to create your household emergency plan on January 3, 2015: The Emergency Empowerment Bootcamp. See www.suemckee.com/emergency-empowerment for more details and to register.

About Wildfire Wisdom

Wildfire Wisdom is a nature-based training and coaching firm with a mission to help business owners who are struggling with going for their dreams without burning out. The Wildfire Wisdom teachings move people toward life balance, freedom and personal power, by re-connecting with nature, so they can create meaningful success and make a bigger difference in the world.

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Are you a Realist?

Are you a Realist?

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I used to be an optimist, actually more like a Pollyanna. Everything was always great – I only saw the positive in situations and ignored the uncomfortable, negative stuff. Now I’m a realist. I accept what is, and recognize what’s out of my control, and then choose to respond in areas where I do have control. You see, realism is accepting what is. The opportunity that’s often missed is then choosing something new in the next moment, in response to what is. It doesn’t mean giving up, or rolling over and playing dead.

Activist Dave Pollard writes in his “how to save the world” blog:

No one is in control. The enemy, if there is one, is not a cabal of elites, but a set of co-dependent collapsing systems that every one of us has a vested interest in trying (insanely) to perpetuate. Systems we have all helped co-create and are almost all dependent on…The question we must each ask ourselves, I think, is this: If we acknowledge that our systems and hence our civilization cannot be reformed or ‘saved’, what can we do now that will make a real difference, for the future, in our communities and for those we love?…The insanely rational answer to this question, I think, is (a) probably nothing, and (b) it’s too early to know.

I disagree with Dave

What we can do is live like we’re dying.

Because we are all dying; we just don’t know when. So why not live like it’s your last months on earth?

Live like your life matters

Activism doesn’t have to mean huge initiatives that shift gigantic gorilla systems a mere millimeter. Activism can be living your life the way you want the world to be and modelling that for others to follow.

I’ve adapted this list from Bronnie Ware’s book “The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying, to give you…

The Rules to Live By (So You Don’t Take Regrets to the Grave)

1. Live true to yourself, not the life others expect of you.
2. Stop working so hard.
3. Find the courage to express your feelings
4. Stay in touch with your friends
5. Let yourself be happier

I challenge you to find ONE good reason to not do the above 5 things. It doesn’t matter if the human race is facing near-term extinction or if you’re going to live another 50 years, there is no reason to go to the grave with regrets about not having done these things.

So… live like you’re dying.

Live life like it matters

If you found out you had cancer and had just months to live, what would you change?

If you were living in a war-torn country and never knew when it would be your last day, what would you say or do differently?

If you were a member of species that was addicted to fossil fuels and were irreversibly destroying the only planet you had to call home, how would you change your life??

Let’s get this party started shall we?!

Join us for Earth Wisdom Living’s Plan Your Self-Sufficient Life Weekend Retreat. Arrive confused. Leave with a Plan. Join the Self-Sufficiency Revolution!

As always, I welcome your feedback! Please leave a link back to your own blog too if you have one, via the commentluv feature right here on the site.

Until next time,

Sue

 

The Myth of Self-Sufficiency

The Myth of Self-Sufficiency

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There’s a global movement afoot that is focused on self-reliance and self-sufficiency, and while I am a huge advocate and trainer in this lifestyle choice, I have noticed that most people have misinterpreted the true meaning of it, and risk falling into the trap and myth of self-sufficiency.

At first glance, the notion of self-sufficient living is a noble dream; to live resourcefully and empowered, getting all your needs met from within your homestead or hobby farm, and to be disconnected from the fragile and crumbling systems that our modern industrial civilization has come to depend on.

There’s an idealistic image of a cabin in the woods, away from the bustle of civilization and the rat race of career advancement, with peace and solitude blanketing the home and property.  Often there’s a pond nearby in this dream, with some Muskoka chairs to sit and reflect on the water that’s as smooth as glass.

Well I’m here to tell you that dream is a crock. It’s near impossible unless you have been training and honing the necessary skills for most of your life.  And even if you have the skill set to make a go of it by yourself or with your family, the isolation will drive you batty.  …this coming from a classic introvert who relishes my solitude!

Here’s why self-sufficiency is a myth…

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12 Surefire Signs You’re On the Path to Burnout

12 Surefire Signs You’re On the Path to Burnout

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There’s an epidemic in our society that is stripping the joy and fun out of life, and often we can’t even see that it’s happening. It’s called burnout, and you might be a victim of this insidious ailment that has afflicted so many.  Here are 12 sure-fire signs that you’re on the path to burnout (even if you don’t know it yet).

  1. You’re feeling stressed all the time
  2. You’re short-tempered and impatient
  3. You’re not getting enough sleep
  4. You’re not exercising enough
  5. You lost touch with friends for weeks or months at time
  6. You’re not having enough (any?) fun or you overdo it on fun in short bursts and then have to recover
  7. You don’t feel happy or joyful most of the time
  8. Your schedule so busy that you have no room for the intimate relationship you desire… or the one that you have
  9. You crash or tune-out using drugs, alcohol, shopping, working, or Netflix binge watching
  10. Your kids say things like “Mommy why are you working all the time?” and “Daddy will you play with me” and you keep on working
  11. You isolate yourself because it takes too much effort and energy to be with people
  12. You know something’s wrong but you regularly think to yourself:
  • …“I can do this, hang tough.”
  • …”I can handle it”
  • …”It’s not that big a deal.”
  • …”I’ll be through the crunch next week.” (but you’ve said that 5+ times in the past 2 months)
  • …”It’ll sort itself out.”
  • …”If I ask for help people will think I’m weak.”

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When the Next Blackout Hits Will you be Ready?

When the Next Blackout Hits Will you be Ready?

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When the Next Blackout hits Will You be Ready? Here in North America we’ve been bombarded with winter storms and extreme temperatures this winter. It seems that almost every week there is a city or state in the US declaring a state of emergency due to heavy snow, winds, and electricity outages.  We had our turn over the holidays here in Canada with hundreds of thousands of people across Ontario, Quebec and the Maritimes without power for days, many of them for over a week. There were thousands of cold, hungry and miserable families who eventually relocated to a friend’s home, a hotel, or a public warming station.

This will happen again.

Are you going to be ready next time?

Weather patterns are becoming more extreme with climate change, and our old electricity grid is fragile and vulnerable to wind, ice, lightning and snow storms.

Blackouts are the new normal.

So what will you do to ensure your family is safe, warm and well fed during the next natural disaster?  Short of planning an evacuation location, building resilience and self-sufficiency is the only way to ensure peace of mind knowing you can weather any chaos, in the comfort of your own home.

For some, a self-sufficiency plan involves knowing their family will be able to thrive for 2 weeks without power and basic services.  For others, their dream of self-sufficiency is to be living off the grid, able to meet all their family’s basic needs for a year or more!

It takes fore-thought and planning and yes, change; doing research, uncovering the options, and making sound decisions.  Your self-sufficiency plan is not something to be taken lightly.  It could mean the difference between your family’s comfort and safety, and their panic and heartbreak.

Leadership Unleashed is proud to announce the new Earth Wisdom Living program,

PLAN YOUR DREAM

90-Days to Create Your Customized Plan for a Self-Sufficient Way of Life

It’s an online group training program that you can take from the comfort of your home or office.  We walk you through every aspect of planning for your family’s self-sufficiency, so you can build a plan that aligns with your core values, vision, budget, risk tolerance, and sense of urgency.

EARTH WISDOM LIVING is for you if you’re aware of the rapid and risky changes in the world and you want to live with a smaller footprint, more connected to the land, and in more empowered and resourceful way, but you’re not sure where to start, you’re overwhelmed with the options or you feel trapped by our current culture’s lifestyle options.

Plan you Dream starts March 4th, 2014!  Come see what it’s all about by clicking here. You can register online and secure your family’s safety. It’s that easy.

I welcome your feedback!  Please leave a link back to your own blog too via the commentluv feature here on the site.

Until next time,

Sue

The 3 Beliefs to Master Change

The 3 Beliefs to Master Change

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Have you ever felt like you’re between a rock and a hard place?  Like you don’t have any options and you’re stuck?  We can feel frustrated and powerless in the place.  And my suggestion to you is that there are ALWAYS options when you have the 3 beliefs to master change.

1.  I can create my experience.  Every moment of every day we perceive the world around us as a reflection of what’s going on in our psyche. In other words, who we are at the core impacts how we experience the world.  So if you want to change your experience, change your Self.  Do the work – whether it’s personal growth, spiritual, or professional development – do the work to transform yourself, in order to change your experience of life.  I worked with a woman who had a challenging relationship with her father in her family-based business.  While in my office that day, she transformed her perspective and understanding of that relationship, and that was the day her relationship with her dad changed for good.  Do the inner work, to create a better life experience.

2.  I can choose how I respond. With every experience, we have a choice how we respond, but first we must believe we have that choice. A very wise man once said to me “No one can make you feel anything!!” This can be a difficult pill for some to swallow because it’s human nature to blame those around us for how we’re feeling.  You get to choose your feelings by choosing your thoughts, beliefs, and physiology… unless you want to continue to give away your power and not take responsibility for your life.  Choose your response (consciously) or react (unconsciously). The choice is yours.

3.  I can handle whatever comes my way. …and I will be ok. This belief is at the heart of empowerment and resilience. Every time I learn a skill, I’m empowered. Every time I adapt to a new circumstance, I’m resilient. Every time I lean on my network for support, or tap a new resource, or resolve an old pain, I’m strengthening my foundation and increasing my flexibility.  The more you stretch and grow and flex, the better able to handle unexpected events you become.  Think of it like building a muscle. You build muscle by working it regularly in a cyclic pattern of stretch-and-heal. Stretch into the new every day, and you’ll be better able to handle whatever comes your way!

I’d love your feedback! And don’t forget to leave a link back to your own blog too if you have one via the commentluv feature here on the site.

Until next time,

Sue

 

Change Scares Me. I Hate Change.

Change Scares Me. I Hate Change.

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People have been telling me that change is scary; that they’d do anything to avoid it, they hate change so much.

“Apple made me finally update my phone. I hate change.”

“I got a promotion. Change scares me.”

“Looking at old photos depressed me. I hate change.”

“Finally dyeing my hair. It’s gonna be red. Change scares me.”

“New people on the team. I hate change.”

Now I know there may be a few of you out there who actually like change and get excited about it, but you need to know that you are quite rare. Most people don’t like change.

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