Yes, it seems that the world is going to hell in a hand basket. And – we don’t have to go crazy along with it! With change occurring faster around us, and the frequency and intensity of unexpected events increasing, we’ve never before needed to be able to bounce back more quickly than we do now. So, here are the 3 principles of bouncebackability to get you on your feet faster after a setback:
- Change the way you think about failure or crisis. Our society raises us to believe that failure is a very bad thing; that it should be avoided at all cost, lest we be ridiculed and ostracized. And yet there are so many examples of famous people who failed so very many times but we only hear about the eventual success they had. It was said that Thomas Edison failed more than 1000 times while inventing the light bulb, and to this he commented, “I have not failed 1,000 times. I have successfully discovered 1,000 ways to NOT make a light bulb.” The key here is that failure is learning, and what a wonderful thing! The same is true of crisis. The universe doesn’t give you anything you can’t handle. And this experience, no matter how frenzied and chaotic, presents massive learning for you, if you choose to see it.
- Manage your emotions. It’s important to know that it is normal to feel negative emotions with a setback, and with the right emotional processing system, you can move through those emotions quickly and effectively to get to rebound. The system we teach in the Rock-Solid Foundation program is simple. Notice it, feel it, express it, learn from it and move on. You get to have your emotions. It’s a basic human right. Use your emotions wisely.
- Get the learning. I have already alluded to this in the first two points, and I can’t stress it enough. The fastest way to move yourself through a setback is to get the learning from it. Every experience we have gives us learning, and our emotions are the guidance system to what the learning might be. If we feel angry, then there is a boundary to be set or a corrective measure to be taken, for example.
It’s humanly impossible to go through life without setbacks, so why do we set this unrealistic standard for ourselves?
I challenge you to embrace the setbacks, challenges and failures and use your emotional guidance systems to acquire the learning. Happy bouncing!
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Until next time, be resilient.