Deliberate Focus on What you Want: The 1st Requisite for Change

Do you know how many times a day we focus our attention on exactly the opposite of what we want?

We see our coworkers with colds and flu and we say “Oh I don’t want to get sick!” or we’re driving on the highway and the fuel light is on and all we can think about is coasting to a stop at the side of the road, stranded.  How often when you’re preparing for that big sales meeting or important presentation do you find yourself thinking about all the things that could go wrong, or just worrying about blowing it? We do this all the time and it’s undermining our ability to achieve our goals!

If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will get you there.   -Lewis Carroll

The most important thing to do if you want to make a change or set a new direction is to get crystal clear on your goal and put all of your attention on the successful completion of that goal.  This is the first of the Three Requisites for Change.

To set a clear goal, use the SMART Goal checklist.

S – Make it Specific and Stretching

M – Make it Measurable and Meaningful

A – Make it Attainable and Actionable

R – Make it Relevant and Realistic

T – Make it Time-bound and Today

For example, “I have 10 new tier 1 clients on January 31, 2012”… notice the present tense.

Then feel what it will be like to have already achieved that goal.

Spend time with our goal, imagining what it will be like.  Put yourself in the place of having achieved it already and bask in the satisfaction.  Explore all the positive implications and consequences of having achieved the goal.  This can be a daily practice of mood-lifting daydreaming!

The more intense the positive feelings, the faster it is coming to you!          -Abraham-Hicks

Here’s the catch.  Our unconscious mind does not process a negative.  So when we think “I don’t want to mess this up!”, the unconscious mind hears “I want to mess this up.” When we think “Don’t miss that deadline.”, the unconscious mind hears “Miss that deadline.”  And when we think “I don’t want to lose my money in another crash!”, it hears “I want to lose my money…”.

The world is full of contrast, constantly showing us what we don’t want so we can get even clearer about what we do want.  Notice when you are struck with a thought about something you don’t want and convert it to a positive thought as quickly as possible.  This will take practice. For example, “I want to stay healthy.” “I will get that contract.” “I will ace this project!” “I want my money to be secure.”

Lastly, work with an NLP Coach to learn how to install your goal into your future TimeLine, to solidify the target for the unconscious mind!

Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe it can achieve.          -Napoleon Hill



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