How to get your needs met so you can enjoy every moment
Dear Brave One,
You deserve to be relaxed, rested and fulfilled during the holidays, and it demands extreme self-care.
Who’s job is it to get your needs met?
Yes, it’s yours. Too often we have this unspoken expectation that others will know what we need and take care of it for us. And sometimes, when that doesn’t happen, we feel resentful and bitter. Well, not anymore…
The Holidays… Your Time!
In this little guide, I’m going to show you how to maintain your energy and your sanity during the holidays, by getting clear on your needs and planning your time to get them met! It’s your responsibility to get your needs met. And your life will be incredibly more fulfilling when you do!
We’re often so worried about being “selfish” that we neglect ourselves terribly. And the result is stress, frustration and burnout – certainly not a combination we want for the holidays. It is your job
to be selfish because if you don’t take care of your Self, then you won’t be able to give of yourself to those around you who need you.
Strap on your seat belts and join me on this little journey…
How Do You Want to Feel?
First, get clear on how you want to feel during the holidays. What are your desired emotions for this magical time of year? Use the list of Emotions at www.suebowe.com/emotions-list and select your top 15 emotions, then narrow it down to 10, and then select your top 5 emotions that reflect how you want to feel during the holidays. Write them down now.
Which Personal Needs are the Priority?
Using your top 5 feelings as your guide, and the list of Personal Needs at www.suebowe.com/needs-list, go through a selection process again, first selecting your top 15 needs, then 10, then top 5 core needs that are a priority for you this holiday season. Write them down in a column on the left side of your paper.
Now for each of your top 5 needs, make some notes on ideas for healthy ways to meet that need, and how often you would want to have or experience each thing. Get specific. Here’s an example…
|Personal Need||Healthy Ways to Meet that Need||How Often|
|Luxurious epsom salts and essential oils bath with candles and music for 45 min||1 / week|
Schedule it in Your Calendar!
Now, pull up your calendar, and schedule the blocks of time into it now, in this order:
- The time for the activities (above) to meet your prioritized needs daily and weekly (even if you don’t know the specific activity yet, block in the time!).
- One entire unstructured, unscheduled, delicious day to do whatever you spontaneously choose to do!
- The events you’ve committed to with family, friends, and work.
… in that order.
Protect your self-time in your calendar with a passion, and you will be happier and more pleasurable to be around!
You did it! You’re ready to enjoy the holidays with balance, ease and grace.
Until next time, be free… and wild!