In Part 1, the first blog in this series, I shared with you two ways to know if you are getting in our own way – one is recurring problems that are actually patterns for you, and the other is unconscious programming that is running your behaviour without you being aware of it.
Now let’s look at the third way to know if you’re getting in your own way.
3. Your doubts and fears are causing you to second guess yourself
Everyone has dragons to face. As a successful business owner, you’re no different. In fact, most of us have become quite adept at masking those dragons with compensating or offsetting habits, rather than facing them head on. But they are still there, those doubts and fears, in the deepest undercurrent of our being, and they are consuming valuable energy that would serve you much better if it were released!
A Harvard Business Review article exposes the top fears of CEO’s and it can make your hair curl. It’s both shocking and a relief to a) learn that high-powered executives are, after all human, and b) that we’re not the only one with dragons under our beds. Take a look at what CEO’s are most afraid of, in rank order below. I have added the limiting belief system that underlies each fear, and adapted the resulting effects from the HBR article, so that you can check-in with yourself to see which of these dragons is running your show.
|Being found out to be incompetent||I am an imposter|
Reduced confidence; undermine relationships; silo thinking
|Underachieving||I am a failure|
Take bad risks; lack of ownership and follow-through
|Appearing too vulnerable||I am weak||Avoid honest conversations; inauthentic; hiding parts of oneself|
|Being politically attached by colleagues||I am not safe|
Mistrustful and overcautious; too much political game-playing
|5||Appearing foolish||I am a fool|
Avoid speaking up; avoid honest conversations; tolerating bad behaviour
Notice your inner reactions to the statements in the chart. Your conscious mind will attempt to argue with you that that fear or belief is not true, but deep down you will know that you know that it’s running at your core… you will feel the familiarity, feel the resonance, feel the truth of it.
Every single fear is driven by a limiting belief, which when changed, will eliminate the fear. Your natural state of being is love, not fear. Fear is never truth. And it wreaks havoc with our confidence and self-esteem. So let’s release the veil of fear shall we?
Do some self reflection. List your greatest fears. Then let’s get together and transmute them into success-driving programming so you can get on with creating the success you dream of. Now that’s Wildfire Alchemy!
So, are you getting in your own way?
If any of these scenarios is describing you, then it’s time to up-level your personal leadership mastery. Contact me today to schedule a complimentary consultation.
Until next time, be free… and wild.