In the article Is your Motivation Hurting you? I shared two important types of motivation that are inconsistent, stressful and unhealthy, and the ideal balance of motivational drivers to have to accomplish your goals in a healthy, consistent and sustainable way.
This is a quick check to see if your motivation is healthy or not.
Here are 8 signs that your unconscious motivation patterns are potentially unhealthy.
- You are very driven and your drive is causing you stress.
- You are frequently unclear about what you want. You tend to defer to what your supervisor or your clients want of you.
- You care far too much about what others think of you. Your benchmark of success depends on what they say about you.
- You tend to work in fits and starts, with confusion in between.
- Things like looming deadlines and negative consequences are incredibly motivating to you. And you usually don’t get started unless one of these is in place.
- Your momentum and productivity is inconsistent.
- If you were the only one in the office for a week, not much would get done.
- You are motivated on a regular basis by one or more of the following emotions: anxiety, dread, fear, anger, revenge, terror, rage.
If you said yes to 3 or more of these signs, then you likely have some unhealthy motivation patterns running. Either you are too extrinsically motivated or you are too avoidance/away-from motivated, or both.
When you are too extrinsically motivated you are giving away control over how you measure your success and self-worth to others. You’re letting something or someone outside of yourself dictate how you feel about yourself.
When you’re too avoidance motivated, you’re going through life focusing on what you don’t want. That will just bring more of what you don’t want into your experience.
What you resists persists.
Have a look at my coaching programs if you’d like to do something about this. I’d love to chat with you to see how I can help.
Leave a comment below and let me know what motivates you and what you learned from this post.